Emma

And I thought I was studying Physiotherapy not PHYSICS-therapy :/

Fifty shades of Grey. Fifty shades Darker. Fifty shades freed.
All in :)

I saw the title of the books on Yahoo main page when I was checking out for any news that interests me. Hmm, Best-seller huh?! I decided to see it for myself and check out its summary.
Its really something out of boundaries and I suggests that young children shouldnt read it; Mature Audience is advised :) But I was really interested in the BDSM part, how a torturous childhood can affect someone, Human Psychology etc
(This is so much better than Sociology)

My reviews for the books: REALLY. Mature Audience is advised. I was almost shutting both eyes to read the books and only open when it concerns psychology. I seriously think that the author HERSELF is some kinky person too :( Sorry
The books are almost like Twilight, just that it is in modern day context and she brought in Psychology into the picture. Quite a unique genre to read.

Just a quick peek to Grey's past (The Lead? or whosoever it is called):
His mum was a crack whore. His dad always drunk and violent. He apparently kicks, slaps, punch, torture Grey's mum as well as Grey himself. His dad will burn Grey with cigarettes too. For some reason, Grey was sent away. Adopted numerous times. Met with Mrs.R who taught him to do kinky stuffs when he was 15 and sort of unleashed his demon and pleasure at the same time. Through such relationship can he keep people away from him, probably due to the fear of being unwanted and unloved again. Or rather he tried to avoid from such misery from happening again.

This is what trauma during childhood can cause. Making someone not balanced psychologically and mentally. It is because what children experienced causes them to have Fears consciously or unknowingly that will eventually shape their character and behaviour. In my humble opinion, I think that Grey has his own fears too; Unloved, abandoned, tortured that he experienced when he was young. All humans yearn for someone to care, regardless from family or friends. Besides, people have their own fustrations and a way to vent it out. In this case, I guess Grey wasn't able to express his suppressed feelings or rather do not know how to express himself until Mrs. R came into his life and provided him a platform to express it all out. And to also satisfy his own longing/desires.
Such relationship wont last long because Mrs. R was treating Grey like a sex toy. When Grey finally understood the meaning or personally experiences what is love about, what does a relationship means (between family/couples/friends), he will then know how to change and control himself.

Here I talked about a few topics that Im interested: Fear, Relationships, Change...



My Views:

Fear can be categorized into inner & outer types of fear.

Outer types of fear are such as afraid of heights, water, holes (LOLS) etc. Afraid of things physically and normally can be overcomed when someone takes their courage to step out of their comfort zone. Normally support and assurance from family and friends does help, but it will require some time to do so.

Im more interested in Inner Fear. It is a sensation that controls someone consciously or subconsciously from doing something because they are AFRAID of things they presume will happen, may happen. Inner fear probably starts to grow due to experiences that are beyond one's tolerance level e.g) getting hurt physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, socially etc (Dependeing on one's tolerance level)
People with Inner fear probably wouldnt know it themselves and assuming that they do, they wouldnt easily allow people to help or even know.
I believe that Inner Fear can branch out to further problems: Obsession, thwarted mentality, behavioural difference etc.
I am guessing that in order for one to completely exonerate his/her inner fears, one must first be willing to face it. Willingness is a crucial word. Some awful or mind-blowing or shock-ful experiences may help to change their train of thoughts and to see things in another perspective. He/She must also have someone who is able to support and always pulling the person back no matter what happens. Someone who he/she can trust whole-heartedly. Someone that give him/her the courage to overcome the inner fears residing deep down in the heart.

This is what makes us humans. Complicated beings.

(These are just my views, not any professional info that I got; I never mean to offend anyone)


That's all for now.
Trying to think....

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